Mostly Melissa

Risk #9

2011-08-09T01:37:00.004-04:00

Today's risk is to let go of feelings of guilt. To be quite honest, I feel guilty about a number of things I cannot control and I realize it's unhealthy. There's no reason to feel ashamed of opportunities I've had that close friends or family never experienced or for escaping trying times unharmed. These occurrences should be joy not sadness. I want to consciously think of things that may be holding me back and release them. Breathe, stretch, shake, let it go.

Song of the day: Chains by Kirk Franklin

Today's thought: I'm exactly where God needs and wants me to be.

Toastmasters (Risk #3 in action)

2011-08-08T20:51:00.000-04:00

Tonight's risk went well! Of course, because I was new and losing my voice I was asked to do an impromptu speech on a random topic but the crowd was great. I felt a little bit like the Golden Girls when they attended the positive thinking conference (lots of nice people with big smiles) but they were sincerely welcoming which made it fun. I plan to go back next week and look foward to developing my extemporaneous speaking skills.

I hope things go well for tomorrow!

Welcome Back!

2011-08-01T21:39:00.004-04:00

Well, you probably didn't go anywhere but I feel like I've been around the world and back! As of today, I'm participating in 2 challenges. The 30 Days, 30 Risks challenge with PrincesAshleigh and the 31 Day Reset with Rosetta Thurman.

My risk today wasn't so risky, just something I've been putting off. I cracked open my trusty Bible app and started a 7-day scripture dive on courage. We could always use a little more courage and what better time to try? Read Joshua 1:1-9 and Deuteronomy 31:23.

For my 31 Day Reset, I have to come up with a mantra. Mine is simple,

"Be strong and of good courage...for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9

My theme song: Mary Mary - Ordinary People

See you tomorrow for Day 2! Pray for me... :-)

Camino Grove 5th Grader Donates Savings for Teachers

2011-03-24T22:13:00.002-04:00

I read this story today and had to share. A 5th grader in California wrote a letter to the School Board asking them to please not lay off teachers at her school. Accompanying the letter was a stack of money - $300 to be exact, her life savings thus far. I hope this warms your heart, too.

http://arcadia.patch.com/articles/fifth-grader-donates-entire-savings-to-stop-teacher-layoffs#video-5204873

White House Bullying/Palin's Ignorance

2011-03-11T08:32:00.002-05:00

http://www.usatoday.com/news/washington/2011-03-10-bullying10_ST_N.htm

So far, the White House attention to bullying has not drawn the criticism that Michelle Obama's anti-obesity campaign has generated. Some conservatives, such as former Republican vice presidential nominee Sarah Palin, have complained about too much White House intervention in people's personal choices.

Wait, is she serious?

Promoting healthy eating and physical activity is “too much White House intervention in people's personal choices?” This is coming from the same camp trying to outlaw abortion because it goes against their religious views, right? So telling folks to workout and teaching healthier eating habits is frowned upon but you have the right to force any woman to carry a pregnancy to term?

Are you kidding me?

Words to Live By

2011-03-09T23:48:00.001-05:00

Just watched Secret Millionaire and it is definitely my new favorite show. Other reality shows, take note! I would love to have a platform to highlight people like Helen and Ellen of the Love Kitchen.

These words just inspired me again.

"Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothed you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?" The King will reply, "I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me."
Matthew 25:35-40

5 Years Later Still Thinking of a Promise Made

2010-09-21T22:04:00.002-04:00

Haven't really written about Hurricane Katrina although its now been 5 years since her terror reigned. I did, however, come across this story, which I bookmarked 5 years ago and still remember my first thoughts.

At the time of the hurricane, I was a community organizer in Washington, DC very much invested in the forward progression of my home away from home. When I read about Deamonte Love his story struck me. Not just because he was separated from family and somehow remained composed but because he led a group of kids, all younger than his 6 years, to safety. He appeared to me to be a natural organizer. I thought, this child's potential and leadership capability is both unparalleled and apparent at such a young age.

I made a silent promise to myself then that I would help send this young man to college and although he doesn't know, I have not met his family and have no idea what is going on with him, I intend to keep my word. Consider this my paying it forward.

Snack Attack

2010-09-11T11:35:00.003-04:00

I don't know if anyone else is persistently attacked by the hunger monster at work but I'm going to take a cue from my nanny friends, grandma and this site and begin packing snacks for my journey.

Eating Well - Snacks to Stash

Any other snack items I should add to my desk drawer?

Life Post-College

2010-08-03T01:55:00.003-04:00

So I'm talking to a friend from college about how I wish life came with instructions.
He explained,

"Seems like your first 5 years after undergrad are just random cards dealt.
And you have to try to make a winning hand
But you have no idea what card game you're playing."

I think that's an adequate depiction of it. Any thoughts?

Be Strong

2010-07-19T07:00:00.000-04:00

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.

Peace for the day. That is all.

Peace of Mind

2010-07-18T17:29:00.003-04:00

This is what I need.
Peace of Mind - Lauryn Hill

Because currently I am this.
Someone Searching - Ginny Owens

I'm searching and its crazy because I don't know what I seek. Peace. Clarity. Understanding. Wisdom. Where is it?

Wasn't planning on having this blog take this turn but I guess I'll share with you as I make this quest, I've been putting it off for so long. Can't wait any longer. Peace.

Just What is 140 Million Gallons?

2010-07-14T22:04:00.003-04:00

So, for the past 3 months now we've been hearing about this BP oil spill.

Right about now there are over 140 million gallons of oil in the Gulf. Its the largest spill in Gulf history, will cost over $100 Million to clean up and My question was and has been, just what is 140 million gallons? I need it in layman's terms. How many football stadiums is that? What's the equivalent in bathtubs?

I hear the spill is comparable to about 35,000 barrels of crude oil per day. Or even better, its equal to the 1989 Exxon Valdez spill every 1 to 2 weeks - 1.

Its crazy how people can justify anything. You'd think this would be a wake up call for other types of energy and a decrease in dependence on oil yet, I am uninspired by arguments against them thus far. Oil is a dirty business. I remember visiting a National Park in Bangladesh in 2008 and hearing about the wonderful drilling being done in that beautiful place by Shell because they own the land beneath it. Great.

So what's next, people?

Ethanol anyone? You never heard about corn damaging the earth like this! Ever heard of an electric spill? We're looking into putting solar panels on the house and the next car will be electric but people think I'm being too dramatic. Excuse me for doing my part.

1. In case you wanna see it for yourself. Read here.

Do you have to become a part of the system?

2010-06-09T10:55:00.006-04:00

I was just reading about left-wing progressives who are unhappy with Pres. Obama and letting him know. They are disappointed in handling of events like the BP oil disaster, the changes to the healthcare bill and joblessness and letting him know their support can't be taken for granted.
The part that got this all going,

“We thought that an election was victory. We forgot that candidates don’t deliver change, that they become part of the system,” said Phaedra Ellis-Lamkins of Green for All, a progressive environmental group that opposes Obama’s loosening of offshore oil exploration restrictions.

At work as a community organizer, we talked about this from time to time as well when community members considered running for public office. Would this result in the watering-down of their values? Do you have to change to compete? If you are in the system, must you become of the system?

As much as I would like to say no I think people change to operate within their surroundings in most instances. In schools, jobs, the government, you adjust to the social norms albeit unintentionally as you become versed in the lingo and attempt to work and communicate with others. If you don't, there can be a constant discomfort, like magnets repelling each other but, is this always the case? Can you change a system from inside?
What do you think?

The Other Song He Sent Me

2010-06-06T02:34:00.002-04:00

Two songs were played that fateful Tuesday that brought me back from the brink. Hallelujah Anyhow by Joe Pace and this song, Who can satisfy by Alvin Slaughter. Thank you, Dillon. Even in death, you are still a blessing to me.

The Big Move

2010-05-21T08:49:00.006-04:00

As many of you know, I love nonprofits. Now that I have finished my Master of Nonprofit Organizations at Case Western Reserve University, I feel even more prepared to combine life experience with classroom learning to make an impact.

That is part of the reason why I am packing up and heading to DC this weekend.

I have a passion for youth and education and plan on putting that into action soon. Be on the lookout for updates, advice, tips on what to do (and what not to do) in the near future. Here's to changing the world! Cheers!

Mortality

2010-05-10T21:31:00.002-04:00

Events as of late have been reminding me of my own mortality. More and more I am becoming aware of that dash. You know the one. The dash between your birth year and your death year. Its become ever-present and intrusive like the blinking cursor on my computer screen.

The words repeat as the cursor blinks. Life. Is. So. Short.

This wake up call is both a blessing and a curse. It keeps me on task and working toward some great achievement yet it saddens me to think the end is nearer each day. Use the time you have wisely; love hard, laugh often, hate never.

The mission, should you choose to accept it, is to leave this world better in some way because you have lived. If you succeed at that, your dash has had meaning.

God is..

2010-04-30T23:13:00.002-04:00

Verse 1
God is my protection.
God is my all in all.
God is my guide and direction.
God is my all in all.

Verse 2
God is my joy in time of sorrow.
God is my all in all.
God is my today and tomorrow.
God is my all in all.

Chorus
God is the joy and the strength of my life,
He moves all pain, misery, and strife.
He promised to keep me, never to leave me.
He's never ever come short of His word.

I've got to fast and pray, stay in His narrow way,
I've got to keep my life clean everyday;
I want to go with Him when He comes back,
I've come too far and I'll never turn back.

God is (8x),
God is my all in all.

I haven't forgotten about you!

2010-04-27T19:00:00.004-04:00

I haven't forgotten about you! I am looking forward to finishing school and getting back on a schedule of working, blogging, pontificating and strategizing, you'll see.

MlleMitchell suggested I write about my money saving venture as I have now been dubbed the Coupon Queen. That's my new name and I like it.

There's nothing better than seeing the bottom of your receipt read:

You saved $14 today!

Ahh. :-) Be on the look out. For now, here's a taste. Could you use 2 free CFL - Compact Fluorescent Lightbulbs?

Success

2010-04-16T00:27:00.003-04:00

Happy Friday!
Thought of the day - here's my favorite poem.

Success

To laugh often and much
to win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty;
to find the best in others;
to leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch
or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier
because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.

~sometimes attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life Updates!

2010-04-14T23:44:00.002-04:00

So much to say. :-D

Well, for starters...I'm engaged now! In true M + T fashion, he proposed right before we ate lunch, said he couldn't wait. Yup, the Mr. popped the question on Good Friday (making it Great Friday) and of course, I said yes! The details have yet to be determined but that will be the next step. For now, we are enjoying the beauty of this phase walking around smiling and what not. :-)

Lots of wonderful things are on the horizon. I'll keep you posted as day breaks.

~The Future Mrs. (crazy, huh?)

To top it all off, I have one week and one day of classes left then one month after that I am moving back to DC. Can't wait!

Love

2010-02-24T00:19:00.003-05:00

Love is a plenty splendid thing.

Ever since reading this: Couple married for 80 years & still going strong. I've been thinking about the longevity & meaning of true love. Its memory and the joy it brings outlasts life itself.

Haven't fully formed my thoughts around it but Uncle Ovid passed away today (my bf's great uncle). He left the earth peacefully and in the arms of his loving wife. He was over 80 years old. Man, that's love. To go peacefully, without pain in the arms of the one who loves you.

It really makes me again thank God for having a love like that. I am blessed.

Keep Going by T-Pain

2010-02-23T18:56:00.003-05:00

Words of inspiration from (of all places) T-Pain.

Yeah
Uh
uhem
keep going
yeah

they get me up in the morning
they give me reason to believe I'm here
for somebody
for someone

they make me feel so joyous
happiness aint a word describe, what i feel
like when i try to give it up
sick and tired of all this stuff
they give me reason to
keep goin
and goin

when i feel that i should quit
i keep goin
i never knew dis would happen
and if u knew bout my past you would see
why
its a miracle

but u can see why I'm happy
nobody wished dis for me
this was prayer
where would i be with out them

and when try to give it up
sick and tired of all this stuff
when i feel like its enough
i keep goin
they give me reason to keep goin
and goin
and goin

Me & He Part 1

2010-02-16T21:54:00.004-05:00

Just smiling to myself and thinking things over quietly here in my room. Rosetta Thurman says I should share my thoughts, tell my story because, "We need more love stories, especially for black women who are being told we can’t find love…"

So, I am trying to think back on the events, the long conversations and occasional pauses, the defining moments that brought me us here, to this present moment of being and deciding to be in love. Here goes.

Saturday August 27, 2005 8am - 2 days before Hurricane Katrina.

Its raining. Great. I've volunteered my friends and I to do a cleanup, the first ever DC Public School Beautification Day at Banneker High School across from Howard. Gotta get moving, round up the troops and head out. To get myself pumped, we stop at McDonald's for an egg McMuffin (no meat). This has been my energizer of sorts for years. Even helped me tackle that wonderful PSAT but I digress. We arrive and there are no supplies, no people and the principal has other things to do. No sense in wasting a good morning so I call the number I received at registration and wait for the mulch and plants to arrive. They arrive - hurray - along with fewer tools than we have people so, being what I'd like to call a leader and my friends call bossy, I help to delegate tasks. A very handsome man shows up with 2 more people and asks who is in charge. They all stop and look at me. Ah well. I say we've run out of tools and he volunteers to bring some over from his house which is apparently a block away. Good, we will get things moving after all. He returns and we begin again. His friend asks what I do and if we all go to Howard (MeMe had on her trusty HU hoodie). The three of us talk for a little while and I walk away. Little did I know I had just encountered the love of my life.

He took pictures throughout the day and said he'd email copies to the group. He asks who he should contact. Again they all point to me. I write down my email address and take his card. He says he will keep in contact. We part ways and he emails me a few days later. Thank God for Yahoo Messenger. :-) We spent a lot of time talking on the internet after that day because of his hectic work and service schedule but as we talked I found myself intrigued and looking forward to our talks on family, politics, education, the Caribbean, our community, everything under the sun.

About a month later he asks if I'd like to go have dinner with him after he finishes his lodge meeting and I finish my Management Info. Systems homework. Would I like to try the crab cakes from Duke's City that he's been raving about? Umm, yes! He shows up to the dorm in a tux carrying a little styrofoam container. Suddenly, I feel underdressed and unsure but we start walking and I soon feel comfortable again. Our food arrives and I'm ready to dig in but he reaches for my hand and we say grace first. We enjoy a great night and as we reach my building he hands me the container. Two girls rush past us and he holds the door. They look a little shocked and one glances back to tell him how nice he looks in his tux. I ask about the container and he says he thought I'd enjoy it. I go up to my room with my doggie bag and this container. I open it and see the prettiest slice of casada cake with white piping and silver beads. Tyria finishes my food and I bite into the cake. It tastes just as good as it looks. Had he remembered that the way to my heart is through my stomach? I am thoroughly impressed. We talk again that night before bed and the next night and the next. The rest, I guess, is history.

Hallelujah Anyhow

2010-02-03T22:42:00.003-05:00

Troubles may come my way. My response remains the same. Thanks Dylan. :-) [I first heard this song in November 2005 at the funeral of my favorite cousin, Detective Dillon Stewart in NY. I think they played it just for me.]

Hallelujah Anyhow Joe Pace

I believe I'll testify
God's been good to me
Through every test and trial
I've got the victory
The enemy has tried his best
To make me turn around me bring me down
But my God's never failed me yet
So I'm gonna stand my ground

No matter what comes my way
I'll lift my voice and say
Hallelujah anyhow'..

Wait a minute one more time
Think I'll say it again
God's been so good to me
And He's my closest friend
I've come to far to turn around now
I'm gonna stand I'm gonna wait
Watch God work it out somehow

No matter what comes my way
I'll lift my voice and say
Hallelujah anyhow'..

Oh, Hallelu Halleu anyhow
Hallelu Halleu anyhow
Hallelu Halleu anyhow
No matter what comes my way
I'll lift my voice
REPEAT CHORUS
Hallelu Halleu anyhow
Hallelu Halleu anyhow ' I'll keep singing
Hallelu Halleu anyhow
Hallelu Halleu anyhow

Chris Thigpen

2010-02-02T13:39:00.009-05:00

Yesterday, my Godbrother, Chris Thigpen passed away. I'm sad and was struggling most of the night until I heard his wife say he just wanted to make sure his life/story wasn't in vain. He was sure to write his story and I wanted to share with you all. Be blessed.

"I am a 27 year old male and I have recently been diagnosed with renal medullary carcinoma which is a rare and currently incurable cancer. I am married and have three wonderful children, Kane, Alana and DaMahn. My wife Brandy and I have been together for seven years and are extremely happily married.

I was diagnosed in September and have since been experimenting with different treatments. The cancer that I have is normally found in African American males who have the sickle cell trait. This disease is normally found in those bedtween ages 10 and 40 with a very low survival rate.

Since contracting this disease I have been extremely blessed in that I have had a relatively enjoyable quality of life. My doctors, family and friends fhave all been very supportive, a benefit was thrown to raise money for my family in which we recieved over Ten Thousand Dollars!!! To everyone that was involved I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul!
Even with all this support, I believe the only reason I am doing as well as I am is because of my relationship with and calling uppon the Lord Jesus Christ. I have so much faith that he is walking with me and will eventually free me of this horrid affliction. He has always taken care of me, even when I dind't know that he was and I feel that me contracting this is his way of using me to prove to the world the power that he has. Most people with this disease die very shortly after being diagnosed or do not even have the chance to be diagnosed because the cancer is so rare most doctors do not even know about it.Some studies report apx. 100 cases diagnosed since 1995.

We are currenlty working on a webstie dedicated to help fund reseach of RMC and other rare cancers. We are also looking to use the site as a gathering place for those of us who are afflicted to communicate and share stories.
I saw all this not to ask for pity or to sadden people but to do the opposite and inspire everyone out there. This is to let you know that it could always be worse. Do not envy the next man because you never know what is going on in his life. have faith in the good of humanity because it still exists. And most importantly, trust and believe in the Lord because his power is awesome!! When humans cannot fix you, only He will be there to guide you, hold your hand and help makle you whole! Please feel free to contact me with any

comments or concerns. and whether you are religous or not please pray for me because as of right now He is the only one who can save me from the sentence this disease has given me.
God Bless!"

His Facebook profile is public so if you'd like to write his wife an encouraging note, please do.

Chris' Page

Self & Career Assessment

2010-02-01T08:58:00.003-05:00

This started out as a note to Mademoiselle Mitchell but soon turned into a blog post. Read and enjoy.

I was applying for an internship on Friday when my bf asked if the job fit into my mission, if it was what I wanted to do and if I even knew what I wanted to do. That made me uneasy because honestly, I don't know.

This morning, I started using this Idealist Guide to First Jobs and its really helping. There's a section about self-knowledge that includes exercises for a self and career assessment and I'm enjoying it so much I had to share! Right now I'm assessing all my work experience, paid and volunteer, since high school to look at what I'm thinking of as the good, the bad and my takeaways/lessons learned.

Its heartwarming and beneficial to see even in situations that weren't optimal (i.e. the funding runaround for my camp) I gained a myriad of skills and have ideas on how to make my next endeavor better. Experience is the best teacher and its kicked me in the butt a few times! So, if you don't have it already, check it out. You can download it for free from Idealist.

More to come...

To all of you out there - is anyone seeking a career/job change? Have you crafted a personal mission statement in the past? If so, let me know!

New Year, New Energy

2010-02-01T08:56:00.002-05:00

Hello All!

Its been a long time but like Sade, I don't write unless I have something to say. I am currently working, studying and thinking hard about life, love and the future so this should guarantee to be an enlightening year for us all. Sit back and relax. I hope you enjoy and are challenged. ;-)

~The Queen

Prayers for the Children

2009-12-31T09:46:00.004-05:00

This poem has always made me tear up or cry. As we move into the New Year, remember the children whose names you do not know, whose stories are often forgotten, who teeter on the edge of existing and not, who need you so much. Today. This year. Dedicate yourself to a cause greater than you. I guarantee you won't have to go far to see the need or the void you can fill by mentoring, sharing your writing/drawing/painting/singing talent, just being a dependable ally. I urge you, do it for the children.
---

We Pray for Children . . .

by Ina J. Hughs

We pray for children
who sneak popsicles before supper,
who erase holes in math workbooks,
who can never find their shoes.

And we pray, for those
who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire,
who can't bound down the street in a new pair of sneakers,
who never "counted potatoes,"
who are born in places where we wouldn't be caught dead,
who never go to the circus,
who live in an X-rated world.

We pray for children
who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions,
who hug us in a hurry and forget their lunch money.
And we pray for those
who never get dessert,
who have no safe blanket to drag behind them,
who watch their parents watch them die,
who can't find any bread to steal,
who don't have any rooms to clean up,
whose pictures aren't on anybody's dresser,
whose monsters are real.

We pray for children
who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,
who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food,
who like ghost stories,
who shove dirty clothes under the bed,
and never rinse out the tub,
who get visits from the tooth fairy,
who don't like to be kissed in front of the carpool,
who squirm in church or temple and scream in the phone,
whose tears we sometimes laugh at
and whose smiles can make us cry.

And we pray for those
whose nightmares come in the daytime,
who will eat anything,
who have never seen a dentist,
who aren't spoiled by anybody,
who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep,
who live and move, but have no being.

We pray for children
who want to be carried and for those who must,
for those we never give up on
and for those who don't get a second chance.
For those we smother . . .
and for those who will grab the hand of anybody
kind enough to offer it.

Please offer your hands to them so that no child is left behind
because we did not act.

Year in Review

2009-12-22T06:21:00.000-05:00

The inauguration of the first Black President of the United States of America.

Still powerful. Still OUR victory.

Youth Movement Records

2009-12-21T21:05:00.002-05:00

A nonprofit youth development organization in Oakland teaching young people all they need to know to run a record label: from free style, to recording, producing, performing, legal issues, marketing, creating a business plan - you name it. Youth Movement Records gives young people a voice, an outlet, a family in a world of chaos. Check it out.

So, visit their website - Youth Movement Records. Then send them some money, support, a mentor, someone in the music biz to expand their world. Happy New Year. Thank you.

Does Anybody Know That You're a Christian?

2009-12-21T20:00:00.003-05:00

The video that sparked it. Does Anybody Know You're a Christian?

God is awesome. I don't know why I was on facebook or why I noticed the video post. Clicking on it was out of character let alone watching the entire video. But I watched and it floored me. I'm so glad I shared and Rosetta saw it. I didn't even know she was a Christian I mean you can assume because its a "popular" religion people might be but we never talked about it.

This also got me to thinking about 2 songs in particular "Last Jesus" and "First Love" by Kirk Franklin.

The verse in the first song that got me says,

If I say I love Jesus, but you can't see my Jesus
My words are empty, if they can't see Jesus in me
No more excuses, I give myself away
Because I may be the only Jesus they see

And the ones from First Love that have been playing over and over in my mind are:

I know they hurt you
They saw you stumble but didn’t help you
And now they left you
They were quick to pray but slow to move

It really makes me think, "How many times have I done that?" If I see someone at the lowest of lows do I provide only lip service or service? What if I am "the only Jesus" they see? Meaning, what if I am their only interaction with a Christian or their if I'm standing at the threshold either leading them closer to God or farther away, what do I do? What have I done? Would I be proud or embarrassed at my action? Crazy world...I needed this last day to put it all into perspective.

Bless the Lord

2009-12-21T19:39:00.002-05:00

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me bless His holy name.

Sometimes I have to remind myself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOa8LKeT98k&feature=related

Brandon Young

2009-11-12T21:26:00.002-05:00

In broad daylight.

I don't understand, how can you shoot someone, somebody's child, and get away in broad daylight.

I didn't even know this kid but my computer is getting wet as I sit here bawling my eyes out.

He was so close to finishing. He was a senior getting ready to apply for colleges and some group of heartless, talentless, emotional bastards killed him. I don't understand whats happening all around me...http://blog.cleveland.com/metro/2009/11/trademark_gang_song_signaled_f.html

Pass It On: Help a Stranger

2009-11-09T06:30:00.001-05:00

A nice person on the B30 shuttle paid for a couple's fare because all they had was a $20, they were tourists and couldn't find anyone to make change. They kept trying to get his email address to paypal him the $6 when they returned home (based on their accents they were a LONG way from home) but he said, "No thanks, have a good day."

I think the picture says it better than I can.

Helping a person in need even if its a complete stranger.

Pass it on.

Pass It On: The Dying Art of Thank You Notes

2009-11-08T10:18:00.005-05:00

These days, some old habits are fading. Saying "please" and "excuse me," giving up your seat for an old person or a pregnant lady, letting people off the elevator before fighting your way in.

I'm pretty good about these but I read an article that make me think for a little bit. What about the "Thank You's?" Hand-written thank you notes will never go out of style. So, today I am writing a note to self (and you, of course) to do this once again. I wrote a guest speaker a hand-written card and he was admittedly shocked to see it. Wasn't that big of a deal to me but I hear it really made his day.

Make someone's day! Stand out as that person still perfecting the dying art of letter writing (and I guess save the post office by actually purchasing a few stamps). It feels good to be thanked.

Pass it on. :-)

avon

2009-11-06T10:46:00.002-05:00

My newest venture. As you know, I foresee myself combining various tasks/jobs I like into my dream career.

Support me by purchasing at my online store and get FREE SHIPPING. ;-) This special won't last, so get ready for the holidays now.

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Poetry how I love thee...

2009-10-12T06:02:00.000-04:00

Communication

by Nikki Giovanni

if music is the universal language
think of me as one whole note

if science has the most perfect language
just think of me as Mc2

since mathmatics can speak to the infinite
picture me as 1 to the first power

what i mean is one day
i'm gonna grab your love

and you'll be satisfied

Shine a Light!

2009-10-10T19:53:00.002-04:00

3 small businesses have a chance at $100K from American Express. Voting ends Friday, Oct 16.

1.Happy Baby - Social enterprise providing organic food for babies and proceeds feed kids in Africa
2 Beacon Paint - a local hardware store committed to local schools and
3. Sacred Wind, a telecomm co. connecting Navajo people with broadband and telephone in New Mexico.

Happy Voting!

New Idea!

2009-09-16T08:30:00.002-04:00

So I spoke to some students at JobCorps yesterday and now I'm thinking of ways to combine years of random learning into a workshop. Telling them things like:

How to create your personal mission statement
The importance of an elevator pitch
And so on...

Maybe this can be my new hustle! I love sharing the tidbits I've gathered from countless guest speakers, internships, self-help books and conferences.

What do you think?

Labor Day - Uncovered

2009-09-13T21:13:00.001-04:00

I thought I knew the meaning of Labor Day - guess not.

During the Industrial Revolution, American workers (including kids) were expected to work nearly 12 hour days, seven days a week. In 1893, Pullman, Illinois, a small company town that employed workers to build railway cars, was in the midst of some really hard times. George Pullman, an industrial engineer and inventor who founded the small town, had decided to cut wages and jobs for everyone working for his railway car company.

Demanding higher salaries, thousands of workers walked off their jobs in protest, causing the railway car assembly line to back up. And that's when President Grover Cleveland stepped in, declared the strike illegal, and sent over 12,000 troops to Pullman to break up the strike. His decision caused massive bloodshed and led Congress the following year to pass an act to make the first Monday in September a national holiday in honor of the labor protest.

Did you know that?

Games That Give

2009-08-26T06:57:00.000-04:00

In your spare time (who really has that nowadays) peruse Games that Give, an online game site that donates money to up to 16 charities when you play. Games include Sudoku, Gems and Word Search among others so give it a whirl!

So far donations are going to DoSomething, the American Heart Association, Feeding America (Formerly America's Second Harvest) and others.

Site o' the Week: Big Bright Bulb

2009-08-24T06:00:00.000-04:00

Big Bright Bulb - Ideas & tools for tiny businesses with tinier budgets

One word - genius. Check it out. Have a biz idea you're dying to get out? Tell me about it.

Learn a Lil' History

2009-08-21T06:32:00.001-04:00

Cleveland's Negro League baseball team, The Cleveland Buckeyes was the 1st major baseball team to integrate when they brought on a white pitcher in 1946.

Sam Jethroe of the Cleveland Buckeyes joined the Boston Braves in 1950 at the age of 32. He is hailed as the oldest person to win Rookie of the Year. To date, no one has broken his record.

Read up on the Negro League Teams of Cleveland (there were 11 total).

NP Power 50

2009-08-20T07:11:00.000-04:00

The list is out! The Nonprofit Times has listed the 50 Most Powerful and Influential People in Nonprofits.

Have a look here: The Nonprofit Times Power & Influence 2009

I just learned about The Harlem Children's Zone (via a HBS case I did in Marketing class) so I was glad to see its director, Geoffrey Canada made the list.

So did Robert Egger, of DC Central Kitchen and Wendy Kopp of Teach for America, among others.

These folks are definitely inspiring me to get reading again. Note to self: most people fail or have to adjust greatly after their first attempt so I'm in great company!

Know anyone you want to be added to the list? Whose on your personal Nonprofit Influence list?

Daily Inspiration: When You Fall

2009-08-18T06:37:00.000-04:00

I have loved this song for a long time. Its a great pick me up and reminder that God is

1. Always in control

2. Just a prayer away

Enjoy!

[Verse 1:]
When you fall
There are angels there
To catch you when you fall
There's a saviour who
Can hear you when you call
When you fall

When you cry and you cannot
Figure out the reasons why
Know that weeping only endures
For a night
When you cry

When you fall
Know that God will never take his love away
He is faithfull to his people come what may
Here me Say
When you fall

[Verse 2:]
When your heart
Has been shattered by the storm and
Torn apart
And you wonder when wiil the healing ever start
For your heart

Don't you know
That He loves you to much to ever let you go
And the storm is there to only help you grow
He loves you so
When you fall

[Verse 3:]
When you fall
There are angels there
To catch you when you fall
There's a saviour who
Can hear you when you call
When you fall

When you cry and you cannot
Figure out the reasons why
Know that weeping only endures
For a night
When you cry(when you vry)

When you fall
(Know that God wiil never take his love away)
Love away
He is faithful to his people yeah
(Come what may)
(Here me say)
When you fall
Fall

Don't you know
(That he loves you to much to ever let you go)
Let you go
And the storm is thetre to only help you grow
(Help you grow)
He loves you so
(Loves you so)
Oh when you fall
When you fall
When you fall

2 More Steps

2009-08-17T06:15:00.002-04:00

My classmate and former co-worker is hiking the Appalachian Trail, a 2,178 mile stretch from Maine to Georgia. She started on 7/8/09 and will finish in December. In honor of her huge trek she and her travel companion created a site, 2 more steps. They're giving up a lot to travel this trail and fulfill a goal so they are asking you (and me) to take 2 more steps and pledge to do something great, It can be small, like walking the stairs instead of using the elevator or carrying a re-usable water bottle instead of buying those 24 packs. Whatever it is, its your step toward change. Take 2 More Steps. :-)

What step will you take? I wanna hear!

Friday Funny: 11 Guys You Will Always Find on the Court

2009-08-14T07:25:00.001-04:00

Site O' the Week: Mint.com

2009-08-13T06:22:00.001-04:00

Need help managing your finances? Look no further than Mint.com. Ms. K.B. taught me about this site this summer. You can create a budget, save for retirement, pay off debt and dreaded student loans all on the same user-friendly site. No need to be a financial guru to understand the money-ese its written so anyone can understand, and even better, actually utilize the site.

The site can download, categorize and graph your spending for you, everyday! Can you believe it? I'm a little depressed because after inputting info from my checking acct. and credit card I realized I had a negative net worth, but hey! At least I know... :-/So far I'm $5 over my budget for restaurants. I can adjust my budget using the little sliding buttons or let it create a general one for me.

So, I recommend Mint.com for anyone who isn't savvy enough to be/have an investor or who just wants to keep a close eye on their moolah. Check it out!

Quote of the Day

2009-08-12T07:39:00.001-04:00

"When you are sitting right on the edge of something daring and scary and creative and powerful and perhaps wonderful... and you blink and take a step back. That's the moment. The moment between you and remarkable. Most people blink. Most people get stuck. All the hard work and preparation and daring and luck is nothing compared with the ability to not blink." Seth Godin

Questions to Ponder

2009-08-11T07:18:00.001-04:00

I am seriously asking myself these 2 questions as I craft my personal mission statement:

What would you do if you were not afraid?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

So, Blogosphere, what would you do?

Camp Reflections

2009-08-10T09:17:00.001-04:00

Camp ended Friday and I couldn't be happier. Parents came to the awards reception and were blown away by how much their children had learned in just 7 weeks. It felt good to hear heartfelt thanks from moms, dads, aunts and guardians who appreciated how much we loved their child while he/she was in our care. In that light, I can definitely say The Commissioner's Camp: Summers of Success was a success.

As with any completely new project, I have things I want to change and lessons learned for the next go round.

1. Diversify funding streams - we are completed funded by a city agency and 5 months after getting an agreement for funding, we are penniless. Supposedly, we will get the funding this week but I've heard that before.

2. Have check-ins with staff - Even if you have no news and no one seems to have questions, talk to them anyway. One staff member was pissed at the end of the camp when she hadn't been paid (Very understandable) but it was mostly because after the first few debriefing meetings she didn't know what was going on. I'm from the school of not meeting unless I have something to say but for people not involved in the daily meetings with the Councilmember regarding our funding and for those not going back and forth with everyone in the Youth Trust and Dept. of Parks & Recs, an update on administrators' daily activities, regardless of how little they avail, is refreshing.

3. Lay the ground rules first - I loved my volunteers but over time I realized they do not all have the same concepts of timeliness or following scheduling. I should've explained that you have to call if you aren't coming in/stick to your schedule ahead of time. I thought everyone knew that but go figure!

4. Find ways to motivate your staff - Esp. in the NP sector where funding may me slow and minimal you have to find ways to keep your staff motivated and to let them know how much they are appreciated. I will definitely work on this for next year.

5. Have 2 back-up plans for funding - that's probably not as necessary when working with foundations but our funder kept us waiting on money promised to us for over 5 months. We never anticipated it taking this long so we had just about no more for our program as it was happening. We had a small BBQ fundraiser that provided money for copies, some class equipment, etc. but not enough for salaries. I want to have funding commitments for next year's camp secured by mid-January. NEVER AGAIN will I rely on a city agency/single funder for all of our money. I will have some contingency plans to put in place if something happens with funding (i.e. series of fundraisers, sponsoring teachers for the program, sliding scale for app fees, combining large grants and small community grants, etc.).

Weds. July 22

2009-07-22T09:08:00.002-04:00

21 Days down!! Camp is more than half over and I am very enthused. Its been a good summer, but I am ready for it to be over. I went from having no children to being responsible for 20-30 kids ages 9 - 12. Its definitely been a growing experience. I'll come back and share some lessons from my summer.

So far, be flexible but firm. I saw some of the staff getting too friendly with the kids and those industrious munchkins use that to their advantage. I had to often remind myself this is a summer camp and it should be fun but sticking to a schedule and developing routines (even if they came late) helped tremendously to minimize confusion.

Well, back to work. I'll continue to chronicle this adventure as I count down the next 13 days of camp. :-)

Name That Photo

2009-05-26T21:20:00.002-04:00

My nephews...gotta love 'em.

Let's see your catchy captions for this photo.

My Inspiration from Mlle Mitchell. Enjoy.

2009-05-02T19:27:00.002-04:00

Again

When you've successfully accomplished something once, you know you can do it again. So do it again.

It required a lot of work the first time. Yet you rose to the occasion, did that work, and created something of value.

It will take more work to do it again. And this time you have the opportunity to accomplish even more.

You know without a doubt that you can achieve. So make the choice right now to do what you know you can do.

What a shame it would be to simply rest on your accomplishment. For much of the value in any accomplishment is in the opportunity it provides to reach even higher.

Go ahead now and make full use of that opportunity. Achieve again, and again, and lift your world higher with each day.

-- Ralph Marston

Cleveland Ideas

2009-04-28T08:46:00.005-04:00

OMG! I was born to make a website like this! http://www.clevelandideas.com/

Its all about ideas to improve Cleveland. People suggest ideas and anyone, after registering, can join in. Its an online brainstroming session creating great ideas. I should make one about DC ideas or youth or something about which I care!

Several times I've said "If I could, I would be a professional problem solver." Not like a consultant per se, but I would randomly offer my insight on problems and people would listen. Ok, maybe a consultant but not in a specific area like corporate bank mergers in North America but in something general, like life.

My ideas so far...

The idea for the metro cars with fewer seats? Nope.
Putting more water fountains in schools? No-brainer.
University staff who need to contact people? Mandatory email skills and yes, I would check during the interview, you'd send an email. Or maybe a follow-up test. I love 200 year old ladies as much as the next kid but NO more typewriters!
Help people recycle - Reminders outside the grocery store telling people to bring their own bags. I know once I'm in the checkout line I don't want to go all the way back to my trunk for my bags and I'm certainly not buying new ones. As a result, another tree bites the dust.

And the list goes on...

What ideas would you post on a huge brainstorming list?

PledgeBank

2009-04-14T10:39:00.004-04:00

Melissa's Cool Site of the Week.

So you want to make some kind of change but you want it to be bigger than you. You go to PledgeBank and pledge to take an action but only if others join you.

This is a great way to build a support system, positively social pressure your friends and multiply the magnitude of your commitment. Check it out and you can find pledges happening in your neighborhood!

Website o' The Week: Wize.com

2009-04-13T09:33:00.004-04:00

So we made a big purchase this weekend of an air purifier to help me breathe more easily. We searched through a few websites and read through the popular reviews to see which product would work the best. Then, I stumbled upon wize.com.

[Enter Eureka moment here]

If you are thinking of buying something big like a new camera, hepa filter, fancy vacuum - whatever, check it out on wize.com and you can consolidate reviews from sources all over the internet. Take a look. Pretty fancy, huh?

Playground Swings

2009-04-05T23:44:00.003-04:00

So I was at the playground today with my nephews. Walking around. Policing. Dancing on the periphery of fun, as usual. Then the kids decided to go over to the swings. I situated them and pushed for a while until the younger one became bored. He left and there was a vacant seat, so I sat down.

The older one and I sat in silence until he asked how to get things moving. I told him he had to take his feet off the ground and pump his legs. Out and back. I demonstrated and began to climb higher. And higher. And higher. Soon I couldn't control the goofy smile on my face. I had forgotten how fun it is to swing.

He, too, became bored with the swing set and went to a different area of the park, but I stayed behind thinking about how swinging is a metaphor for life. You lift your feet and take off. Who knows how high you’ll go. Out. Back. Out. Back. So simple. Just pump your legs. Out. Back.

Why hadn’t I thought of this earlier?

Things to Do on My Day Off

2009-03-05T12:57:00.004-05:00

Well, everyday is my day off now that I'm unemployed but I digress. Here are 2 fun things to do to pass the time!

Learn Something.
Academic Earth provides video lectures from Ivy-League professors on everything from economics to entrepreneurship, anatomy to physics.
What did I watch? How to Find Your Passion & Pursue it.

Go Somewhere.
Well, not really. Stay right at your computer. Travel, instead, through cyberspace via flickr.com. How about we go to Tanzania. Why? I don't know but these pictures are great!

Any other suggestions?

I miss the 80's!

2009-03-04T00:14:00.002-05:00

I was just reading an article that referenced Hasbro's Gloworm TM and I wanted to take a commercial to say how much I miss being a kid in the 80's/early 90's. Man, do you remember these?
I have a feeling this is the beginning of a throwback. Stay tuned...

Humpday Break: Father Involvement

2009-02-25T06:33:00.000-05:00

Not Watching TV

2009-02-16T10:16:00.005-05:00

So I don't watch any tv that's still on for the most part. My fave shows like Will and Grace, Golden Girls, Frasier, etc are all on DVD so I can watch them online or on my laptop at my leisure.

This was the worst invention ever.

I am just now realizing how much time I waste watching tv or even being distracted by it in the background. So this is my tv-free week. Sounds simple enough, right? Not. Last time I did this I nearly when insane, who knew my thoughts were so loud, constant and distracting? I didn't! I'd been drowning them out for forever.

So here we go. Hopefully in my new-found free time I will continue my personal growth reading list...

And for funzies so far...

Along with this movie. Enron: The Smartest Guys in the Room.

Any suggestions for my Reading and Educational Movie List? Let me know!

Economy

2009-02-09T15:23:00.008-05:00

You know we're in a slump when thrist store sales sag. Yikes...
Sales Slow at Charity Thrift Stores

What are you doing to save money/spend less right now? Or are you changing anything? Leave me a comment, let me know!

Busy

2009-02-03T16:56:00.003-05:00

A busy day in Dhaka.

Just here thinking about the speed of life. Rush to get to work. Rush to school. Pick the kids up, homework, visit this person, return that. Always busy. I've been unemployed for 2 weeks now and I must say, I enjoy the break. Yes, I am concerned that I may run out of money but I'm not homeless (Thanks, Dad!) so I can't say I am worried about it.

In the fast-paced world we call home, what do you do when you have to do nothing? Can you even slow yourself down to consider it?

I'm just wondering...

President Barack Obama

2009-01-20T23:50:00.003-05:00

On the 8,414th day of my life, Mr. Barack Hussein Obama became the 44th president of these United States of America. I have lived history.

Bright Colors of Bangladesh

2009-01-18T18:10:00.005-05:00

Fabric store. Cool, huh?

(And I'm pretty sure he thought I liked him because I took this picture like 3 times. Sorry guy, you're like 12.)

These women are at a BRAC Microfinance weekly meeting to turn in their money. Of course, when people saw our bus pull up they all came to check us out.

Bangladesh in Photos. Overview Part 1.

2009-01-18T17:24:00.009-05:00

Just a few photos. I'm still gathering my thoughts and what not.

Picture near our hotel in Bogra, Bangladesh...I think.

This lady was at Mahasthangarh, a partially unearthed ancient city in ruins. She's selling some kind of meat and puffed rice (it was way better than Rice Krispies.

Quick pic in front of the replicated Nobel Prize Stage.

Mother and child.

I took over 400 photos so let me know what you want to see. More to come!

I'm Baaaacck!

2009-01-13T09:25:00.002-05:00

Thanks again to all who contributed to and supported me in my travels. I have safely returned to the US of A and am trying to have pictures uploaded and this blog updated this weekend. In the meantime, we got a little press! Article in Bangladeshi Newspaper. Enjoy and come back soon!

Soroptimist

2008-12-21T14:57:00.004-05:00

Soroptimist is an international organization for business and professional women who work to improve the lives of women and girls, in local communities and throughout the world.

Click the pic for "Live Your Dream" Art contest: k-12 girls draw a picture about a women who inspires them
Almost 95,000 Soroptimists in about 120 countries and territories contribute time and financial support to community–based and international projects that benefit women and girls. The name, Soroptimist, means "best for women," and that's what the organization strives to achieve. Soroptimists are women at their best, working to help other women to be their best.

Click the pic for Women's Opportunity Awards --> Very Inspiring Stories!
Soroptimist members belong to local clubs, which determine the focus of volunteer work to their communities. Club projects range from renovating domestic violence shelters and providing mammograms to low-income women, to sponsoring self-esteem workshops for teenage girls.

The Website also has tips for women like How to Deal with Our Stressful Lives.

Journal Writing

2008-12-14T15:57:00.004-05:00

I was given a journal at graduation (back in 2004, lol) and I just re-opened it today. It starts with one of my favorite quotes.

"Your thoughts have great power when you put them into writing. Writing is a way of making a commitment to the desires of your heart. If you haven't committed yourself to a purpose, it's easy to become distracted and get off track. Keeping a journal is a way to stop, slow down, and think about your wants, needs, and goals.

Use this journal to list your goals, to write about your plans and your achievements, and to stay focused on your dreams. This journal is a tool to help you along the path to your goals. Whatever it is you want to achieve, use this journal to make it happen!"

Random Definition

2008-12-12T10:23:00.009-05:00

So I was reading an article here: County Commissioners Shuffle Funds to Pay Bil l and I saw a random term that I've heard in the past, bed tax. I don't know about you but I didn't know what it meant so here you go, random definition of the day.

bed tax . A levy imposed by a local government on hotel stays within its jurisdiction. A bed tax is a way for local governments to raise taxes without incurring the wrath of voters since, by definition, the people paying the tax are out of towners who don't vote in local elections.

The Travel Industry Dictionary is provided courtesy of www.HomeTravelAgency.com.

Now you know!

7 Random Things About Me

2008-12-06T14:32:00.000-05:00

Nicole of Chestnut Orange fame tagged me to share so here goes...

1. My biggest pet peeves are people who drag their feet, chew with their mouths open (yuck) and add "S" where it doesn't belong. Ex. 1 Bison: a herd of Bison -- there is no such thing as "Bisons" people!

2. I wanted to have 7 kids when I was in high school, I was going through my big family phase. I think I'm over it.

3. I HATE when people ask questions back to me! Ex.
G: "Hey, Melissa did you go anywhere?"
M: "No."
G: "You didn't go anywhere!?"

Umm, I answered already. Thanks.

4. I love my family. They are hi-LARI-ous. From my nephew saying the baby smells like a skunk to my grandma asking "So...what are you doing with your hair?"

5. Traveling is one of my passions. Mlle M and I want to write a book about our collective adventures, be on the look out for that!

6. I'm pretty boring, lol. I love reading random books that catch my eye (yes, I judge by the cover sometimes). I also choose staying home watching one of my fave syndicated shows or planning my takeover of the world over going out 9 times out of 10.

7. I've wanted a pet pig and a monkey for forever. Thats why I gave up pork (and I never ate monkey so that was easy).

*And a bonus:
I had braces 2x.
I just found out yesterday, raccoons have people hands! Who knew!? But aren't they cute!
Now Tagging:
La Princesa: http://princesaashleigh.blogspot.com/
Ms. K. Elise, BAP Extraordinaire: http://misskatrinaelise.blogspot.com/
W. Elaine, of 1016: http://thebadgirlsguide.blogspot.com/

Give Thanks

2008-11-29T20:43:00.006-05:00

As I reflect on the past year and everything I am thankful for, I came across this: What Social Entrepreneurs are Thankful For. Read and be delighted.

My favorite quote on the page? Glad you asked!

Josh Levy, Change.org
"I'm thankful that I'm in a position to spend my days helping to bring people together, to get them more involved in the issues of our time. And to do this while helping my own family grow -- these are real privileges."

I can't wait to be in that place (done with school with a little change in my pocket) to make change. Until you/I get there, take baby steps.

Monday Funny

2008-11-24T09:05:00.002-05:00

A little laugh for Monday.

And I am at 10% of my Fundraising Goal! See My Chip In Page. Thank you so much to all who have contributed! I wish I could take you with me to Bangladesh. Don't worry, I'll take plenty pictures!

Wooo 2% There

2008-11-19T08:23:00.001-05:00

shAgatom [Read: Welcome] Click to hear the Bengali word spoken

So I am ELATED because in a little over a month I will be in BANGLADESH! The map actually shows 3 cities we will be visiting.

Not only are my friends excited with me but they are totally behind me and have donated their money to help me get there
(Thanks Ash, Thanks Whit!).

I promise I'll take great pics! Mademoiselle M and I have toyed around with the idea of writing a travel book but I am once again convinced we should.
Would you read our travel guide once it hit the bookshelves?

What am I most excited about today, you ask? Airplane food served in courses!
(I'm a fat kid I know, lol)
I'm also creating a presentation as my final project to receive credit for the course. I have no idea what the topic will be yet because it should be something that interested you once you arrived.

$2055 down, $1845 to go by next week!

To see more on the trip see here: Melissa's Chip In Page

Dolls Like Me

2008-11-18T20:09:00.001-05:00

So every now and again I see something and think, "Man, I wish I had thought of that." Instead of keeping it to myself I will share these great business ideas/inventions with all of you from time to time.

Enter Dolls Like Me.

Dolls, games, toys and books for the multicultural audience or those who just want to expose their kids to more. Games that depict the colors and faces around us. Dolls like me.

Look at this little toy phone!

And my FAVORITE! A memory game, I Never Forget a Face, with kids from all over the world.

I Heart Men who Care & Act - Vol. I

2008-11-16T15:31:00.005-05:00

Let's see if I can make this a regular feature. Men who make a difference...I love it.

"We tend to want to start our history with slavery and not understanding that we were free before slavery and that makes a big difference in people's mentality…We had our own identities, we had our own cultures. You didn't come from nothing, you came from something great." Dr. Williams

I love positive men.

Man of the day: Adam Morgan, great-grandson of Garrett Morgan and co-founder of The International Men of Excellence, Inc. a nonprofit working with young men in East Cleveland, OH. Hear his radio interview here: Images Radio Program – Black Studies Dept of CSU

A few things came to mind after listening to this…

Eva McCorvey wouldn't give up her seat on a bus either. She was 15 and pregnant so she didn't become famous. Not to undermine those who did make it into the public eye but just to highlight the fact that we all can contribute. You may never become famous or rich because of it, it may not be your season but your strength and dedication is needed for our collective success.

Best quote of the whole show: After talking about how he went through so many things, (being molested, having a 14 year old mom, running amuck after high school), Mr. Morgan talks about how God allowed him to go through things to better understand the people he'd meet later in life.
"I can't walk in your shoes but I can buy the brand that you have on."

His email is: Iamwhoiam8@hotmail.com. He even gave out his home number but I'm not going to post that.

Hit him up on myspace. Tell him you heard about him from me. ☺ www.myspace.com/IamWhoIam8

Woo Hoo! First Donation

2008-10-22T08:27:00.007-04:00

As many of you know, I have been chosen to participate in the "Microfinance in Bangladesh" Program with
Case Western Reserve University ,
Southern Illinois University-Carbondale
and the Independent University of Bangladesh .

Not only will I learn about microfinance and visit a number of NGO's (non-governmental organizations) but I will meet Nobel Prize Winner and creator of the world changing Grameen Bank, Mohammad Yunus! I am ecstatic!

See our travel website SIU Bangladesh trip

To make things BETTER, I received My First Donation today with the help of the Chip-In widget on the right side of this blog!
Thank you so much Troy from Wisconsin. Your money and kind words help more than you know! :-)

Here's the thing, the trip costs
$3900 incl. airfare, food, seminars, fieldwork in 5 villages and study materials
$3132 3 credit hours
$7032 by Dec. 1st

So the 20 bucks seems small in comparison but thats $20 less that I have to cough up.

In the meantime I may need to stop volunteering at the Free Clinic and pick up a part-time job but we'll see. Thanks so much for your support!

My Ideal Career

2008-10-21T18:30:00.000-04:00

I am beginning to realize my ideal career would involve surfing the internet for random things and connecting people.

It would involve:

and this

Not that I work out now but I want to start again (a woman can hope) AND I come up with great ideas when I do actually work out/slow down.

and I would

and the people

I'd be the idea woman, other people would carry out the tasks.
All in the comfort of my own home pictured here:

or, to keep me from becoming a complete workaholic, I'd work in a really laidback office that inspires creativity.

:-) Can't wait, until then I guess I'll keep going to class and finding new internships to help me add tools to my career toolbox.

What would your dream job look like?

Don't Vote

2008-10-03T18:33:00.001-04:00

RIP Nancy Maynard

2008-09-30T23:38:00.001-04:00

Just starting off the "people who made/make a difference you probably never heard of" section, lol. Ok, thats just the working title. Leave me a few suggestions.

;-) M.

RIP: Nancy Maynard, trailblazer and former Oakland Tribune owner

by Sean Mayer, Mercury News

Nancy Maynard, a prominent Bay Area journalist and the first African-American woman to own a major daily newspaper in America, died Sunday in Los Angeles after a prolonged illness. She was 61.

Her death was due to the failure of several major organs, her family said.

Born Nancy Hicks, she began a gutsy, trailblazing journalism career in 1966. Outraged by inaccurate and destructive reporting on her neighborhood, she became a reporter for the New York Post when she was 20 years old.

From there she jumped to the New York Times, and as its youngest staff reporter she covered stories ranging from the Apollo space missions to African-American student takeovers at Columbia and Cornell universities.

She married news legend Robert C. Maynard in 1975 when she was at the Times and he worked for the Washington Post. Two years later, they left their jobs and moved to the West Coast, gambling on an idea they had to form a non-profit dedicated to training minority reporters and pressing newsrooms to “reflect the diversity of thought, lifestyle and heritage in our culture,” as Maynard put it.

They launched the Institute for Journalism Education out of Berkeley. No year-round service like it existed at the time.

“It was a bold move for two people who were really on the rise in their careers at two of the best papers in the country to leave that security and get the institute going,” said Steve Montiel, one of eight other co-founders of the institute.

The Maynards bought the Oakland Tribune in 1983, a historical first in two respects: It was the first management-led leveraged takeover of a newspaper, and it resulted in the first African-American ownership of a major metropolitan daily newspaper.

The couple sold the Tribune to Alameda News Group in 1992, a few months before Robert Maynard died.

“Nancy Maynard was a very good businesswoman,” said William Dean Singleton, CEO of MediaNews, which owns the Tribune. “She was on the one hand tough, but one the other hand extremely gracious.”

Updates

2008-09-20T13:43:00.009-04:00

Hello All,

I'm still excited and preparing for my trip to Bangladesh. Just a few updates:

I am accepting donations via PayPal. See link below and at upper right hand corner of my page.

I want to hear your fundraising ideas. I've already gotten a suggestion to do a pollado, like a fish fry but with pollo, but thats it so far!

I'm going to start a new weekly feature about being cheap as Whitney requested. I'm telling you, its an art.

That's all folks. Can't wait to hear from you.

Me.

Can't Wait

2008-09-15T10:45:00.002-04:00

I cannot wait until I go to Bangladesh this December 27, 2008 - January 11, 2009! I've told some of my family and friends and they've just excited me more. I still don't know about the money situation but I know things will work out.

Hey, comment on here with your fundraising ideas. --

Nothing is too big or too small. Thanks in advance for the help and all your great ideas!

The World Traveller's Crazy Chronicles

2008-09-12T13:49:00.008-04:00

So, I love to travel. It's a new craze in my life but I love seeing how people live and famous sites. I want to go all over. In 2007, I studied abroad in Sydney, AU for 5 months and took a few pics.
See me in front of the Sydney Opera House:

And me petting 'roo at zoo:

And here on my 1st day:
So, I've developed a get-up-and-go attitude, well, on occasion. Yesterday I went to a study abroad meeting and guess what!? By the end of the 45 min session, I decided it was time to take off again. This trip will be a 2 week excursion around the world to learn about Microlending in its home. Read this short article to get an overview of Grameen Bank.

On the trip, we'll meet Muhammad Yunnus, Nobel Laureate Scholar, the country's Premier and people at several Non-Governmental Organizations.

Maybe you've guessed it, but I will be jetsetting to BANGLADESH on December 27 returning to the States on Jan. 11, 2009!!
To the land of this and this .
I've made the decision and thats half the battle. Financing the trip will be the other half. If you'd like to donate to this worthy cause, stay tuned. I do accept checks, cash, traveler's checks, gift cards, spare change and the like. :-D

-M.

Action Pt.II

2008-09-03T00:35:00.000-04:00

Why I'm getting on the good foot...

1. When Obama becomes president, I won't just be an onlooker, I'll be a part of the change. Your fanbase always multiplies after you win and all the Looky Lou's decided to get behind you because they were too scared to make a choice before. Uh uh, not me.

2. I have to put others before me. My nephews, my family, my community, my teachers, My Heart and those around them need a transformational leader to ensure their future.

3. Everyone is tired of America the bully. Ooh look at us we have BIG guns. Great, but other countries have bigger cajones and if you keep treating the world like its full of peons, indigents and those unworthy of your time existin only for your entertainment, charity and mistreatment, think again. They will collectively kick your America.

4. We're ready for him, we've prayed for him, we've hoped for him.

5. Look at how people are coming together! I can't say I've seen this in the past and its only the beginning.The Obama Volunteer Vibe: Punks and Billionaires

So I haven't even begun to talk about the policies but have no fear, its coming. In my attempt to blog about reality I must write about those things/issues closest to my heart. Therein lies my truth. In the coming weeks look for the guest blogs as well as Nonprofit goodies. ;-)

Action Pt.I

2008-09-02T00:25:00.003-04:00

So as I think about the campaign so far and my involvement, or really, my lack thereof, I began to realize why I haven't been very involved. I made a few donations but I have yet to give of myself and I realized why. If Obama were to not win, I would be devastated and when you work for something or believe in it and do not receive, you are hurt all the more. I wouldn't be able to sit on the sidelines and simply shake my head. I'd be involved.
It's like following a team all season, the home games, the away, the wins and hopefully few or no losses, until they arrive at the home of the golden chalice, The Super Bowl. You've done your part, watching, cheering all season and have awaited this glorious moment. If they win, you're excited as if you were on that very field. If not, you're crushed.

True, there's always the possibility of defeat, but what if we win? I'm very much a sore loser, but what if we win? I was talking to My Heart late last week about the very same thing. He says we should put our all into pursuing what we want and if we don't, we cannot complain about settling for less. I'm being moved to action...and I like it.

Donors Choose

2008-08-28T09:11:00.004-04:00

I heart this organization. Well, by now you know I like nonprofits and organizations whose mission is to fill a void, connect people or serve an honorable purpose.

Its back to school time and Donors Choose is doing it once again. A single organization that connects teachers and educators with great ideas for learning projects with people in the public who can fund them. Not huge donors or foundations, but regular people who can give $30 or $10 or fund an entire initiative to help kids learn.

When you see a project, you get background on the school (income level and general location) and after you give you receive a hand made thank you from the kids along with pictures of them using the new gift/supplies! It also shows how much has been donated. Wanna be the first to give or the last one to send that final 15 bucks.

At one school in Ohio, a teacher is seeking donations to buy iPods so her 1st grade class can create podcasts. See iPod Into The Future here.

In Modern Day Muckrakers" a teacher in DC needs an LCD projector to be able to give PowerPoint lectures. She explains how hard it is to teach visual learners in high school via PPt with no projector, I can only imagine!

The premise: "Teachers ask. You choose. Students learn." Help someone start off the year right. Feel free to browse thru the projects underway just to see how creative these teachers are, fund a project in your area or just spread the word!

The Late Great Stephanie Tubbs Jones - US House Ohio 11th District

2008-08-21T13:29:00.006-04:00

Ohio's first African American Congresswomen and my mentor, Stephanie Tubbs Jones, passed away of a brain aneurysm yesterday.

I interned for her Cleveland office during the summer following my freshman year in college and though that work is unpaid, I gained an invaluable experience. When I continued in the fall at Howard U, I'd see the Congresswoman on occasion at events and she'd speak to me or introduce me to people. I think I'm in shock.

During that same year, my friend had her cotillion and her mother was away in Iraq. Rep. Stephanie Tubbs Jones attended and filled in for her constituent and soror who was so many miles away fighting so her daughter wouldn't have to be alone when the other girls in the cotillion acknowledged their mothers.

She wasn't superhuman or perfect but she was caring and compassionate. From what I experienced she was genuine which can be hard to come by in a world full of facades. Maybe I've found my calling. My grandmother, mother and aunt all suffered frm brain aneurysms. One in 1996, the next in 2000 and the last in 2004. You don't know how happy I will be to end 2008 healthy. Until next time...

M.

Getting the Kids Ready for School

2008-08-13T09:05:00.006-04:00

I have 2 young nephews, one budding genius that will be start kindergarten next fall and a smaller on with talent yet unknown. As I searched the internet today for things they can do on the internet and in my neighborhood to stimulate their minds, I stumbled across Starfall, my site of the day.

I'm obviously a kid at heart because I browsed through and enjoyed it. My perfect job would have to include surfing the internet for seemingly random, interesting things and passing them on to others. A professional networker of sorts. Hmm, I'll work on that.

TTYL,
M.

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle

2008-08-11T21:52:00.003-04:00

Most creative site of the day: Freecycle.

"The Freecycle Network™ is made up of 4,566 groups with 5,605,000 members across the globe. It's a grassroots and entirely nonprofit movement of people who are giving (& getting) stuff for free in their own towns. It's all about reuse and keeping good stuff out of landfills."

So, you sign up with the group in your city and give away or receive things in good condition to save it from an eternity of landfill lifelessness. Try it out and let me know if you find anything good.

The coolest thing I've seen - a candy making kit complete with molds, sticks and cellophane. Nicest thing - a brand new Ikea chest of drawers. Good idea if you want to recycle or get rid of some stuff a la pay it forward.

Do good,
M.

Reasons Why Education is Important

2008-08-07T10:39:00.002-04:00

"The intimate link between school failure and incarceration is clear at the bottom of the education ladder where 60 percent of black, male high school dropouts will go to prison before age thirty-five."

Did you read that carefully? 60% of Black, male high dropouts will go to prison before turning 35 years old.

We all know there's a correlation between education level and your salary, likelihood to go to jail and even future health, but who knew the jail rate for African American male dropouts was this high?

If you're like me, you're a little shocked but that lasts only a second and you are moved to action, or at least contemplating it. So, what can we do to stop or reduce this cycle by decreasing this percentage?

1. If you're a young man, consider becoming a Big Brother.

2. Consider becoming a Big Sister. The commitment is only 4 hours per month and you can make a world of difference. Big Sisters
I'll make a list of ways to get involved and keep adding to it, just wanted to put this out there. Any suggestions?

Besos.
M.

Beauty

2008-08-05T07:29:00.004-04:00

I haven’t always felt gorgeous. Shocking, I know, but throughout my life there have always been women I thought of as unbelievably beautiful reassuring me of my intelligence and great I am. I don’t really know how I would have turned out without those positive reinforcements. I mean I got the usual undying support from my mom but in elementary & middle school I ignored it mostly, aren’t moms supposed to make you take dorky pictures and fawn over you on the first day of school each year?

One lady, in particular, is still one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met, inside and out. She taught me about beauty without having to talk about it, she just lived it. She was/is a teacher, then a principal, a mom, a mentor, a tutor and still flawless. Then one day to my surprise, she showed up to church with braces! I had braces, too! ☺ Funny the things that shape our lives, she said I looked like I could be her daughter which kind of brightened my day during that awkward phase. I saw her at my grad party in June and wouldn’t you know, she looks the same. This time she was telling me how much I’d grown, how proud she was and how I’d blossomed into a young lady. And you know what, I had to agree with her. ;-)

These days kids are facing insurmountable odds. I occasionally look at myself with distaste making unfair comparisons to the women I see outside my circle, not the real women in my world. I can only imagine what little girls and teenagers are thinking. Check out this site for girls by Dove® the Girls Only Interactive Self-Esteem Zone
(I feel so old! LOL, the internet was so new when I was little now we can find and do anything)

Whether you want to share the mentoring/support you received during your formative years or you want to help some girls form the positive self-image it took you years to create, Get Involved Building Self-Esteem or the Real Women Have Curves page.
Real beauty. Let's start a trend.

Stepping Up

2008-08-04T20:31:00.000-04:00

Ok, I feel like I have good ideas and good intentions like most people, but I feel as though I am not living up to my potential. But why? That Marianne Williamson quote comes to mind:

That is definitely the case for me. I've been meeting with people all summer talking about grad school, nonprofits, working in Cleveland, etc. My mentor/boss-person gave me the contact info for a guy in E.C. and I've been saying I want to work there, so why haven't I called or emailed him? Honestly, I'm a little scared. Its the difference between saying you want to make a change or have an impact and actually doing it. Going from talking about it to being about it is creeping me out a little. I guess adulthood begins now, that and the rest of my life.

Do you need to step up, too? Tell Melissa all about it...

PR Tip of the Day

2008-08-04T07:36:00.006-04:00

So, I was surfing BlackGivesBack and came across this video by Jennifer Witter, PR Expert for Inc.com and founder/president of her own PR company.

She has a short video (2 mins) on ways to get the media interested in your org, business or cause. Very interesting and helpful if you are involved in any of these. If not, you may be able to use the tips somewhere down the road when you need to pitch a story, get some press or spread the word about something. Enjoy!

In Other (Unimportant) News

2008-08-03T00:43:00.007-04:00

So, my room is a mess.

Partly because I do several things concurrently, partly because I hate to clean it up. Like now, I have a pile of college brochures on the floor. You may be thinking, "M, you’ve already graduated from college and you’ll be starting grad school this month, why do you need college brochures?"

Great question. Quick answer, I don’t. But somebody does. I’m thinking the youth program my church is trying to start may find them useful. I only have the brochures with pretty pics, majors and college overviews, the stuff that doesn’t really change, not the dated applications or financial aid stuff. Ah well, the life of a wanna be socially responsible/green girl turning woman(lady?).

By the way, welcome to my stream of consciousness. Not always clear, seemingly off topic but me nonetheless.